James Chartrand – Men with Pens’s last blog post..How to Outsource Your Life to the Right People

Re: “what does that mean, really?” … for those first baby steps, I think you can trust your gut to tell you some of the little things that you know would make a big difference, just to start.

Thanks for your questions – It’s like you’re writing my next post topics for me

@Brett –
One step is the only way to do it…

@Sonia -
Good to hear you’re locked into time with the kid. Now quit goofing on the web :-p

@Rob –
It’s the little things that make a big difference … try and knock out one or two of those every weekend!

Two nights ago, I finally took the time to place the final two feet of crown molding up in the master bedroom. The wood is old and brittle, but focusing only on the task at hand and not getting caught up in the frustration helped, and I eventually got it done.

Time to start a new trend.

Thanks for your help, guys!
Rob

Good habits I’ve developed:

I spend the hour between dinner & my kid’s bed time with him, always. Always have, since he was born. Very recently I’ve allowed myself to skip a night, but not more than once every other week.
I also spend the first 45 minutes or so he’s awake in the morning with him. Does rotten things to my schedule but I don’t care.
4 times a week I haul my sorry carcass onto the ellipse machine, as soon as the boy starts his breakfast.

Everything else in my life is a disaster. I could do better with my evenings (like spending them with my very excellent husband). Your post makes me realize I’m not quite ready to change my habit there, from time spent goofing on the web. Hmmm, interesting.

Sonia Simone’s last blog post..Are You Ready for Your Audition?

Very timely. Just move forward, one step at a time. And for answers to James’ questions, I think that is all very personal as he said – but again, the answers could come, one step at a time.

Brett Legree’s last blog post..square peg, round hole.

My questions/thoughts:

If we don’t know what balance truly is (ie, more money, more happy… what does that mean, really?), then how do we know what our goal is? Without a goal, how can we take that first step?

Or, should we rather accept we have no clue where we’re going but it has to be better than going nuts or dropping dead from exhaustion?

On a philosophical bent, is everyone’s balance the same? Maybe the actions aren’t or the hobbies aren’t, but are the proportions the same?

On an even more philosophical bent, what happens when the very thing that sucks your time is the one thing you truly love doing? How do you restore balance then? or when your favorite thing to do is the worst thing for your family?

James Chartrand – Men with Pens’s last blog post..When You Lose a Different Kind of Everything

Another tactic is to imagine yourself having completed it, looking back and saying, “Yeah, *****, I did that!” Sometimes, the act of visualizing yourself having embraced the suck is enough to remind yourself that you are a badass who can keep on keepin’ on, ’till it’s done.

@Michael -
I hear you. My goal is to avoid getting to the point where I feel like I’m gonna go nuts or drop dead from exhaustion

@Chris -
“It’s a cinch by the inch.” Goofy saying, but true.

My responsibility is to remind them and work with them one bite at a time. Or one account, one strategy, one decision at a time.

“Let’s simply set up this account or let’s set up this automatic funding, etc.” Keep it simple. One step at a time.

And as importantly, I remind them to focus on progress…not the elephant.