Mar 21, 2010
Lift Someone Up
It’s far too easy to feel down about yourself … and it’s not just you. Everyone around you – those people who seem to “have it all together” – they stress about themselves, too. It’s natural and unavoidable to feel small and inconsequential at times, but it doesn’t have to be something you settle for feeling long-term.
Been feeling down lately? Yeah, me too. Here’s how to fix it.
Making Someone Else’s Day Automatically Makes You Happier
It’s part of basic human nature to strongly desire significance to other people, to feel that we’re making a contribution. Knowing you’ve tuly helped someone, that you truly matter to them is pretty much intoxicating on a psychological and biochemical level.
There’s one little problem though: We tend to think other people have more impact than we do. Because of that, we value our own contributions less, and we think that we suck and others are so much more significant than we can be. We forget how much we mean to others.
And this happens to us no matter what level of “success” we have (in fact, “successful” people freak out about this more than “other” people do).
As humans, we’re just not wired to appreciate ourselves – and we magnify others’ contributions while minimizing our own.
So what’s the antidote to feeling small and valueless? Simple: Make someone else feel valued, right now. Think about how incredible you feel when somebody tells you how the appreciate you, or how you helped them – whether it’s someone you worked hard to help in a huge, life changing way or even a child who you simply encouraged consistently (possibly effecting just as big a change for their future).
Now think about who you can appreciate in that same way right now. And don’t just think about it – tell them. Today.
When you make that deposit in someone’s emotional bank account, you actually get paid a dividend in the process because their feeling of elation rubs off on you. By making them feel appreciated and valued, you’ve made a visible and meaningful contribution. In short, you’re hella significant to them, and you’ll feel that all the way down to your toes.
Your Assignment: Take 7 Minutes To Lift 7 People Up This Week
Each day this week, send someone a quick email. Quick and short. Just say “I really appreciate you because of _____; you’ve made a difference in my life. I just wanted to say thanks.”
(Sure, you can gush if you want, and ignore my ‘quick and short’ command – it’s really just there to get you off your ass so you’ll do it. Write as much as you want, but just write something.)
Each day this week, take 60 seconds to email one person. And watch what happens – you’ll feel better about yourself, in spades.
And Just To Make Sure You Really Do It, Leave Your First Message In The Comments
Take a few seconds right now to give someone their shout out in the comments – and then cut and paste it into an email. The more of you who leave this kind of comment on this post, the more people you’ll inspire to take action.
Leave your comment. Lift someone up. It’ll lift you up as well.
Do it now. You’ll thank yourself for it.
That is all -
P.S. – Once you’re done, hit that “retweet” button below & spread the word so others will keep the uplifting emails coming. (And if you’ve come to this post via my Stop Settling newsletter, please forward it to at least one person today who needs to hear this!)