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Jul 16, 2010

How to Get Exactly What You Want

J. Paul Getty was quoted for his formula for success: “Rise early, work hard, strike oil.”  When I first ran across this quote ten years ago, I had to laugh, because it looked like Getty was saying you have to work hard and hope to get lucky.

But fifteen years later, I can see the more relevant meaning, and I’m about to share with you why Getty’s concept, perhaps more than anything else you might ever read, could be what gets you everything you want for the rest of your life.

In short, it all comes down to your personal expectation as to whether or not you’re going to ultimately succeed.

That’s it. That’s where it all starts. I can say this because that’s how reality works – you’re not going to get anything if you don’t work hard to achieve it. But you’re not going to work hard in the first place unless you have a strong enough expectation that you’ll be successful (or at least be successful at learning from the experience).

This is just how life works. Your motivation to take action, and to follow through until the job is done, is directly proportional to your belief that you will succeed. (Side note: In some cases, the belief in success isn’t even necessary – instead, you might be motivated by the fact your action will serve a higher cause, such as a ‘failed’ protest sparking a larger public awareness down the road).

If you break this concept down to the simplest parts, what you have is this:

When you believe strongly enough that you will succeed at something, success is practically guaranteed – not because your belief creates the result, but because you don’t give up taking action on a massive level until you get what you want.

When you believe that success is inevitable, you are able to put aside the idea that “failure,” in the conventional sense, is a bad thing.

Instead, it’s just a specific attempt that you can learn from. Another life lesson to be accepted and consumed, not feared.

When you believe that success is going to be the end result of you never giving up, then you are going to attack your objective with a greater energy, a greater passion, a greater work ethic. You’re going to be excited about what you’re doing, because you know that it matters. You know that whatever it is you’re doing, it’s adding value that will eventually translate into the result you want.

That unwavering belief lets you focus your thoughts on questions like “How can I … ?” rather than “Why can’t I … ?”

The perspective of certainty gives you the ability to see obstacles as not these things that stand in your way, but instead as challenges that fuel your growth.

I experienced this myself as a ten year old kid in Brooklyn, New York. A horrible turn of events led to me ending up all but homeless until I was taken in by a relative who was both an alcoholic and a drug user.

Years later, after I escaped the constant surroundings of drugs and violence, people remarked to me how surprised they were that I had avoided getting involved in drugs, alcohol, or any of the gang activity that was so pervasive during those years. Rather than any of that, I pretty much was a straight-A student who stayed out of (too much) trouble.

I always found it a bit mystifying that while some people believed it was a solid foundation of strength that kept me on the straight and narrow, the thing that really kept me safe was that I didn’t really accept the idea that I could get involved in any of those things in the first place. I just didn’t know any better – I thought it was “normal” that I was supposed to avoid them.

I just didn’t see it as possible or reasonable for me, so I never thought about it. Those things were problems “other people” got involved in, but not me. In fact, I viewed the daily challenges I faced as tests that were there to make me stronger, so one day my life could make some kind of difference. And poof – that’s exactly what happened.

The point of all this is that all of my actions were driven by a firm belief that I would succeed eventually.

That I would get through it all and come out okay on the other side. That I would strike oil. And it’s no different than the mindset you have to adopt to make any of your goals/dreams/objectives a reality.

There’s an old saying, “What would you attempt if you knew you could not fail?” While it sounds good on the surface (and it is, don’t get me wrong), it’s not perfect. Sure you could say what you would attempt if you knew you couldn’t fail, but that doesn’t help you when your brain is shouting, “Hey dummy, you’re probably going to fail, don’t you realize that?” The original question is a good start, but it needs to be taken a step further.

Instead of wishful thinking about what “could” happen, I’ve found a better question is “What will you attempt knowing that you will ultimately succeed, despite all the ‘failures’ that are sure to come along the way?”

Because, face it, life is going to throw some pretty rough stuff over to you. You’re going to have a lot more go wrong than you’d ever hoped for. But getting what you want requires blood, sweat and tears, and that needs to be seen as part of the package. One of your strongest success factors will be your willingness to package this in as part of your expectations.

So let’s talk about setting expectations.

An expectation, in it’s most literal sense, is a certainty that a specific result will occur.

If you’ve got a major goal that want to achieve, you need to have at least five things straightened out before you can really attack it full force.

#1 – You have to have the expectation that you (specifically YOU) can achieve this goal.

This one is a biggie. People typically have a lot easier time believing something is “possible” than believing it’s “possible for them.” They don’t fully believe that they will be capable of achieving a goal because they are missing something – the time, the talent, the resources, whatever. They have an unwritten expectation that they will not be one of the people who “has what it takes.”

That’s a load of garbage. If you believe that, even just a little bit, then it’s going to seriously damage your ability to take action. You’re never going to give 100% and stick with it until the job is done. If this is you, you need to fix this first.

#2 – You have to have the expectation that you will close the resource gap, no matter how wide it is.

This one is also a biggie. It’s easy to look at a large goal and feel like the distance between it and you is too wide. After all, how can you compete with the biggest successes in the world, who are already established? You can find out how by studying the people who do it every day, like skinny, broke college kid Michael Dell who took on IBM and Hewlett-Packard (and won). If you’re reading this years from now, a hundred other stories just like his will have come and gone.

You have to, have to, have to believe any resource gap can be closed. A lack of time, money, manpower, connections … it all doesn’t matter, because there’s a number of creative solutions out there that you’re going to come up with to overcome all that.

If you don’t believe the resource gap can be closed, it won’t, because you won’t take full-out action to make it happen. But if you have the expectation that it will eventually be resolved, guess what’s going to happen.

#3 – You have to have the expectation that you will find a solution to every problem that will inevitably come your way. Every one.

You can’t guarantee a problem-free life. But you can guarantee that you see a ‘problem’ as an opportunity, so rather than being drained by the challenge, you are energized.

Chew on this and decide how you’re going to make this shift in thinking.

#4 – You have to have the expectation that every action you take matters. Every damn one.

This is critical. When you think taking action won’t matter in the long run, you simply won’t do it. But when you recognize that action accumulates – that the pyramids are built brick by brick, and every one matters, you’ll be willing to take action even when you don’t feel like it and your heart’s not in it.

Remember, everything you do matters. If you don’t think it does, then you need to make that shift as well.

#5 – You have to believe that you can accelerate the process of getting to your objective.

This one’s my favorite. As you improve the discipline of following through and taking action on a consistent basis, you’ll want to find new forms of leverage to make the journey to completion a lot shorter. This is what leverage is all about.

By holding onto the firm expectation that you can find ways of leveraging all your resources, you’ll be subconsciously looking for ways to make that happen, and as a result you’ll find a lot more of them. And that will get you to your goal faster. Much faster.

So, I hope I’ve sold you on the power of expectation to get what you want, whatever that means to you. If not, then read this article again and again until it sinks in. And then put your expectations to the test and get them correctly aligned.

It’s a bit of work, but if you do it you’ll start seeing better results than you’ve ever seen before in a lot less time than you might imagine (unless your expectation is to see results right away. :)

So here’s your homework …

  1. Pick one important goal and get your expectations put in writing so you can drill them into your brain and use them to your advantage. Do it now – you’ll thank yourself for it.
  2. Leave a comment below and let me know what those expectations are.  If you don’t want to put your name in, put “Ass Kicker,” that’s good enough for me.
  3. Spread the word about  this article.  I hope it’s been “clicking” for you, and I want it to really get some reach.  Click that retweet button below if you would, and spread the word however you can.

Do it now – you’ll thank yourself for it.

That is all -

Dave

42 Responses to “How to Get Exactly What You Want”

  • Jul 12, 2010 Jake Mayer

    Thanks for that one Dave. It was EXACTLY the ass-kicking i needed this morning…

    As well as being a solid answer to my weekend-nagging question of “why am i bothering with all this extra work I give myself?”

  • Jul 12, 2010 James Chartrand - Men with Pens

    When people ask me, “Can you [insert XYZ here],” I always grin and answer, “I can do anything.”

    (Except fly. I cannot fly. Pan’s abilities escape me still, though zip-lining comes close.)

    Realistically, I can’t do anything – but I hold the BELIEF that I could, if I tried and applied myself.

    So when I don’t do something, it’s very simple: I just didn’t try hard enough or give it my all.

    And if I want something? All I have to do is try to reach it.

    Do I make it? Not always. But I do try. And if I don’t make it?

    There’s another saying I have: “There is no such thing as failure – there is only learning experience.”

    Take the positive from every negative, learn from it, and give it another shot. Eventually, you’ll make it.

    Success.
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  • Jul 12, 2010 Jason Burnett

    Excellent post. However, I think you need to add 1 more step:

    #0 – Make sure the goal that you’re working toward is what you actually want.

    I’ve been doing a lot of work around this one lately. I’ve spent a lot of time (and money) working on the goal “become a history professor,” when it turns out what I actually want is “make a living teaching people about history and how it’s relevant to their lives.” Now that I’ve ACTUALLY identified my goal, I’m ready to move on to step #1.

  • Jul 12, 2010 Tony Teegarden

    I also believe our follow through on getting what we want has a lot to do with how you see yourself.

    Steven Covey said- “We don’t see the world as it is, we see it as we are”

    What’s your self image? How you see yourself determines your attitude when getting after your goal(s).

    I love what Dan Kennedy said about the “snap back” theory.

    If you take a rubber band and stretch it with your thumb and pointer finger, then continue to stretch it past the point of what’s comfortable, that’s will power.

    Our shear will power to accomplish our goals is the same but the reason so many people fail to follow through is because they aren’t congruent with how they “really” see themselves. Eventually you snap back to how you “really” see yourself. Your will power fails you because it’s not something sustainable.

    I know I’ve failed to acknowledge my real self and what really inspires me and when I did, things sucked

    The crazy thing is until I got this, I would beat up my self image up because I felt I had failed.

    “There is a difference in distinguishing between you and your mistakes (failures). Too many people destroy their self image by merging the two.”- Charleston Heston

    I’ve always known that if you’re not “failing” you’re not growing (or growing your business).

    However the key between those who can make mistakes and not tie them into their self image in a negative way and those who can’t, is a congruent self image.

    Excellent post that ties directly into my current truth and message!
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  • Jul 12, 2010 Todd

    Thanks Dave,

    For your message of Confidence. Confidence is such an ambiguous term – yet you were able to put into words what I go through everyday. It’s the act of setting the expectation and writing it down that give the term confidence true meaning. Confidence is bolstered by setting the expectation and comparing the results to the actions taken. Once the results match the expectation Faith is rewarded and conviction is set. Then we truly become an unstoppable force. Your words are always soo timely, it’s funny how the answers will present themselves when we ask the question and listen. As Journey said…”Don’t stop believing” and don’t stop writing. It could be your words that inspire someone to greatness.

    Thanks again!

    Todd
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  • Jul 12, 2010 Jackie Lee

    Fantastic kick in the pants today Dave. This goes right along with “making it mandatory” which has really stuck with me since I read it in one of your workbooks.

    I love expectation #3, and I have never thought about it in that way, but that is HUGE. It gives me so much confidence to go out there and DO ~ because I can trust that even if crazy stuff happens I’ll find a solution.

    Thanks for a great start to the week!
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  • Jul 12, 2010 Dawn Wilder

    Thanks Dave for your inspiration!!! Great article! I’m going to print it out and post it in obvious places to keep in front of me. Will give me something to chew on while I am out of town – can be applied in so many areas of life!

    Dawn Wilder

  • Jul 12, 2010 Dustin | Engaged Marriage

    Perfect post for me this morning, Dave. I was actually raised in an environment similar to your own, and I can totally relate to the mind set that you shared as the reason you chose a different path.

    And point #5 is my favorite as well. :)

  • Jul 12, 2010 ass kicker

    excellent message; I’ve got my compass set to reach my goal. Yeah, great idea to post it in several places – thanks Dawn.

  • Jul 12, 2010 Christy

    Thank you, Dave.

    I read most of your posts, though I rarely comment.

    This one hit close enough to my current in-psyche battle, however, that I need to ask if you’ve been peeking into my brain pan?

    Good words. Important words. Words worth re-reading.

    Thank you.
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  • Jul 12, 2010 Melethil

    I was looking for something like this actually..Thanks a lot Dave!I am trying for another job in another country but that required an additional XXX skill set, which I dint possess, I was worried and confused..After reading this I have given myself a deadline to achieve my goal and written down a list of things I need to do. Thanks Dave, its already working for me.. :)

  • Jul 12, 2010 Gentle Ben

    Good morning Dave

    And thanks. This is my first reading.

    It took less than 2 minutes just to understand your 15 year interpretation of the “Getty Principal”.

    My vow to return to a 6-6:30 morning will be done.

    And, if you do the work, the rewards will follow.

    Regards,

    Ben

  • Jul 12, 2010 Laura Orsini

    Thanks, Dave. The numbered steps are great (and I COMPLETELY agree with Jason Burnett that you must be working toward the right goal, as opposed to what someone else wants for you).

    I’ve been working on a book for almost 10 years – finally putting all the pieces in place to launch it this year. Funny how getting those things done matter now in a way they haven’t until now. Either I want it more now, the timing is finally right, or I’m finally ready. Maybe all of the above!

    Will definitely pass this along.

    Laura

  • Jul 12, 2010 LaShae Dorsey

    Ass thoroughly kicked. I’ve struggled for a long time with #1. I always believed doing more would finally help me get over not fully believing I was capable and instead it almost always led to oh no, they’re gonna find out imma fraud.

    Not a good place to try building from.

    Now, after stepping back and getting clear, I see the work waiting to be done and the courage necessary to acknowledge and expose those “unwritten expectations”.

    Huge. Dude. Huge.

  • Jul 12, 2010 Jess Webb

    Dave;
    Wow, this is good stuff! Thank you!

    Here’s my homework that I did:

    I did up a little printout to go on the wall in front of my desk with the question “What will you attempt knowing that you will ultimately succeed, despite all the ‘failures’ that are sure to come along the way?” and then I listed the 5 points.

    Then I did up another printout based on the first one, but I personalized it with my goal at the top, “I will be debt free by December 31, 2010″ and I filled in each of the 5 points with my own expectations customized for that goal. :) Now I’ll tape the second one up by the first one to remind me of this every day.

    Awesome stuff, man – thank you so much!
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  • Jul 12, 2010 Tallulah Flyte

    Wow Dave, your posts hit me every time! And speaking of no one expecting much of you because of your past, I can totally relate. Everyone is always wondering why I’m not completely fucked up because my father died when I was young. Thing is, I’m just as fucked as everybody else. (This also goes back to themes in your article ‘How To Stop Telling Your Sad, Sad Story’) Everyone’s got their shit, all that really matters is who they are today and where they are going.
    This article is definitely something I’ll have to read over and over again to make sure it truly sinks in as recently my expectations of failure and what not have been making me want to pull my hair out. Thanks soo much for this!
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  • Jul 12, 2010 Rayvonne Johnson

    This was a great post and I learned that you must work hard at what you do ,and be so busy at it that you do not have time to give up because nothing has happened yet .
    My goal is to work on my brand as a student and teacher of wealth
    Thank You.

  • Jul 12, 2010 Isabelle

    Hello Dave,

    when I saw your email today I thought, ah, ass-kicking coming up! And I was so right.. Thank you for sharing your personal story. Now, I’ll stop reading and surfing and do some creating instead..

  • Jul 12, 2010 Marcel Chastain

    Amazing.

    This is exactly what I needed this morning. We have a tendency to let challenges stack up, to grow exponentially in perceived difficulty when our attitude slips. These practical thinking habits are incredibly powerful… in fact, this might become required reading every morning for me.

    Thanks!
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  • Jul 12, 2010 Jenn Brockm

    Holy shit and merry christmas to me!

    This “But you’re not going to work hard in the first place unless you have a strong enough expectation that you’ll be successful (or at least be successful at learning from the experience).”

    Hit home in such a big way. My 8 yr old has autism and still wears pull ups. Her case manager has droped a bomb on us all this week by telling my kid she needs to be out of pull ups without asking any of us at home. This freaks the crap out of my kid because she faced the issue a couple years back and couldn’t get it. Her body does not recognize the need to pee! So, every time she had an “accident” she felt shame and failure.

    So, now the idea of even not wearing a pull up scares her, fills her with the feeling that she can’t possibly ever actually stay dry. She doesn’t believe she can.

    I may not have said this eloquently but I now have a way to convey this to her case team other than just saying ” back the hell off”.

    Thanks!
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  • Jul 13, 2010 Patty H

    Thanks, Dave!! I was late reading your “Ass-Kicking” today but I definitely needed it. I’ve been making excuses lately knowing damn well that I can be just as successful if not more at my business if I just put forth a little bit of effort. I’m forwarding this one on!

  • Jul 13, 2010 Melissa Muirhead

    Love it, thank you! I sway from having utter belief in my ability to achieve anything to despair of who do I think I am to think I could do that. That second option is getting less however and I think that reading and listening to inspirational people is helping transform me. Watch out world!

  • Jul 13, 2010 Dawn

    It’s as Henry Ford said: “Whether you think you can, or whether you think you can’t, you’re right”

  • Jul 13, 2010 tamara

    all of this is a great reminder for me today to bunker down and look up at the good ol goal board again…focusing on taking small actions for my monumental dreams and believing each action matters! thanks!

  • Jul 13, 2010 Peter Knight

    “I can say this because that’s how reality works – you’re not going to get anything if you don’t work hard to achieve it.”

    with due respect, that’s a belief not a truth. I’ve achieved plenty without working hard, and I’ve worked hard without achieving much and so have many others – that’s not to say hard work is to be avoided or bad or unnecessary (I work hard all the time), but we are living in a culture that likes to associate our hard work with our self worth/image/value and it hasn’t been a very productive belief imo (if you didn’t put in 100% you’re a failure or if you didn’t get x result, you didn’t work hard enough etc). I don’t think people need to be pressured or encouraged into working hard or encouraged to do so.

    It [hard work] definitely can be a natural by-product of being passionately involved in something personally fulfilling.

    The expectancy that every goal requires hard work, or needs hard work is a self fulfilling prophecy – sometimes that’s good, sometimes that’s bad. I don’t think we need the added ‘work-harder’ sentiments, that only works up more resistance to fight and does little to motivate in a smart direction.
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  • Jul 13, 2010 Eric Phillips

    I’m currently reading “Think and Grow Rich”. This goes right along with what I’m learning. Thanks for driving the point home.
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  • Jul 14, 2010 Sile

    Great post!

    I just finished my book which has taken me a year to write but I guess I’ll have it on my website in no time at all now. I havent always had an unwavering belief and I have stopped and started. I think we can all relate to that. What I am proud is that I worked through the ‘down times’ and I worked hard and eventually got it done.

    To infinity and beyond!

  • Jul 14, 2010 Jacq @ Single Mom Rich Mom

    This is pretty much exactly what I did to retire early. Thanks for writing it down much better than I could have. Now to apply that same mindset to some of my other goals.

    My only issue is that I had a passion to get to retirement quickly whereas on some of my other goals, I’m not so sure that the juice is worth the squeeze – or if my ladder is up against the right building. Will have to go back through your archives as I know you’ve addressed that in the past.
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  • Jul 19, 2010 Isobel

    I totally agree that your life turns out exactly the way you expect it to – which is how I’m writing this comment from my desk overlooking one of the most beautiful beaches in the world. Believing 6 impossible things before breakfast helps as well :)

    Here’s my homework: Between now and the end of this year I expect to earn $50,000 online.

    Btw, I remember you from TLS – you did plenty of ass-kicking then too! lol
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  • Jul 19, 2010 ass whooper

    Dave you amaze me EVERY week! You get directly to the EXACT heart of human motivation on a consistent basis. You have a great gift, thanks for sharing it with us!

  • Jul 19, 2010 Steve Kennedy

    Thanks Dave! Your posts are always thought provoking. This is one of your best. I appreciate you taking the time to create such great content.

  • Jul 19, 2010 Mike Kirkeberg

    Gotta disagree on this one, Dave. Motivation is a key to success, but success (or the belief in it) is not necessarily an ingredient in motivation. Motivation comes from doing what you love to do, it comes from interest, not the carrot at the end of the stick. Just my opinion, could be wroing!
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  • Jul 19, 2010 Srinivas Rao

    Dave,

    This is a pretty timely post. I’m listening to Tony Robbins tape on using powerful questions as I write this. Earlier in my life I realize I never truly believe I was going to succeed. But now, I’m in a completely different position, doing something I absolutely love, and I think that also has driven me to believe that I’ll succeed. Great article.

  • Jul 19, 2010 David Crandall

    Awesome post!

    My expectation is that I’m going to succeed enough to leave my well paying job for a business that I’ve started. Funny enough, your post a few months back on fear was the final straw that it took to get me moving in that direction in the first place.

    I’ve had a fire in me since I started with the expectation that I won’t fail big (small ones, fine, but not big). I love this message and agree with it 100%!!!

  • Jul 19, 2010 Kathryn

    What a GREAT article!

    #1. I expect to be a professional photographer, supporting myself with my income, which will be higher than it is now (July 2010).

  • Jul 19, 2010 O Da P

    I got to tell the girl I love that i love her instead of showing her everyday. let’s get it on.

  • Jul 20, 2010 ass whooper

    You absolutely nailed it again Dave, the truth is immensely powerful!

  • Jul 23, 2010 Cath Lawson

    Hi Dave, This is so true. If you don’t really believe you can achieve something, you’re more likely to make some half assed attempt at best and probably wind up giving up.

    I think one way to overcome the fear of failure part, is not to see your mistakes as failures – no matter how big they are. The only real failure is giving up.

    The part about speeding things up is good for shorter objectives. But for bigger ones, sometimes it feels better to take things a bit slower and enjoy the journey.

    Mind you, may be that is cos I’m older now and got tired of achieving goals at breakneck speed.
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  • Jul 23, 2010 Randy Cantrell

    “When I first ran across this quote ten years ago, I had to laugh, because it looked like Getty was saying you have to work hard and hope to get lucky.

    But fifteen years later, I can see the more relevant meaning…”

    It has taken me this many days because I jumped on the hamster wheel trying to figure out the time warp you experienced. Sorry, I get distracted like that.

    Wait a minute! I think there’s a point in there somewhere. No, there are many good points in there. Well done, sir. Well done.

    You’ve rocked much more than my day!

    Randy

  • Jul 30, 2010 Gianpaolo Pietri

    “I always found it a bit mystifying that while some people believed it was a solid foundation of strength that kept me on the straight and narrow, the thing that really kept me safe was that I didn’t really accept the idea that I could get involved in any of those things in the first place. I just didn’t know any better – I thought it was “normal” that I was supposed to avoid them.”

    I’m not sure why more people don’t understand this. I feel the same way. In college everyone around me was consumed with the idea of doing drugs, escaping reality, and having a good time. I just didn’t get it. I wanted to succeed. I wanted to achieve great things. i wanted to build a legacy. Those were my drugs.

    When you are driven to succeed, it really doesn’t mattr under which circumstances and in which environment you grew up in, you will find a way to make it through cleanly. You are living testament to that.

    Bravo!
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  • Aug 4, 2010 Stella Stopfer

    In starting or running a business, there will always be ups and downs, or bigger and smaller challenges that will appear along the way, but no one tells us that believing in ourselves gets easier. If we try this (btw, great topic!), believing that we can achieve a goal that we want or reach our expectations, as time goes by it gets easier to believe it. You make the steps, achieve one (small) thing at a time and there is no way you won’t belive you can do whatever you want to do after a while.
    You see things working out, you want to do more and that gives you the reason to believe you will get to that place.

  • Sep 7, 2010 Nothing

    This is a great little post. Everyone now and again you need a pep talk to keep soldiering on.
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