The "Confidence Riffs" Chronicles

  • How I Boosted My Confidence In 5 Minutes And Made Over $5000

    Feb 17, 2008

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    As I’m pushing through the Christine O’Kelly Freelancing Showdown, I’m kicking myself for not taking advantage of ways to make money that I could have been using for the last 12 months. (Damn you, page 3!). But no more. I realize now that I’ve fallen under the seductive magic of the “Scary A-Lister Syndrome.”
    If you’ve never heard of this malady, it boils down to this – you don’t consider yourself expert in an area because there are so many people more experty than you are. This usually happens because you dabble in a skill that other people devote their full attention to. So on a scale of 1 to 10 those “A-listers” are 10s in their field while you clock in at about a 5.

  • Email Hack: Make Your Email Motivate You

    May 10, 2007

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    Short post today, but useful if you put it into practice.
    It’s pretty likely your inbox/folders/(labels?) are hiding some pretty great emails in there …

    Emails where people have gushed about how you’ve helped them/the great job you did/how much they value you
    Emails telling a story that really inspires you or motivates …

  • 3 Ways To Never Lose Sight Of Why You Rock

    Apr 20, 2007

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    No matter how much you rock, you will always have times when you feel like absolute crap. You will feel like things are getting out of control, that you’re falling behind, falling short and that you are losing the drive to make it work (because on some level, you …

  • Would You Trade A Dime For A Dollar?

    Sep 20, 2006

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    When somebody’s running a successful business, I try to listen to to the advice they give to help my own ventures.

    But when somebody is so financially successful that there is only one person on the planet with more money than him … well, then I really listen.

    Warren Buffet, the second richest person on the planet, once said, “Price is what you pay. Value is what you get.” This is the ultimate statement on leverage. It proposes that how much something costs is irrelevant. How much you get in return, well … that’s everything. But it’s not how we tend to think…

  • Giving Yourself Permission to be Imperfect

    Jun 20, 2006

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    If you want to rapidly increase the pace at which you overcome personal obstacles and weaknesses, let me give you a simple perscription: Give yourself complete and total permission to be imperfect. Just decide you’re going to be okay with it. Stop sweating the fact that there are 57 different things you wish were different about your life and let it go.

    Here’s why: If you don’t give yourself permission to be imperfect, you’re setting yourself up in a position of weakness. You’re starting out with the “I’m so screwed up” or “My situation is so bad” perspective, which doesn’t do anything to help you overcome things. In fact, it just keeps you there longer, because you get depressed about how many problems there are with you and your circumstances. Your ability to take action to change things dissolves.

    The way to successfuly work on overcoming your “imperfectons” is to use a different strategy – the triple tactic of honesty, realism, and action.

  • How To Become a Stronger Person

    Jun 11, 2006

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    I still remember how Mike lost his job. When I was a teenager, I rode the bus to school – you know, those big yellow ones that slow down traffic so much. If you’ve never had the opportunity to ride in one, you may not know that the engine is equipped with a little device called a governor. It’s purpose is to limit the top speed of the bus to 35 miles an hour for safety. (That made for a long ride to school.)

    One day, my bus driver Mike (not his real name) decided that he was going to taste a little bit of freedom and figured out how to disable the governor on his bus. Being one of the kids in the back, I wasn’t in a position to see the spedometer, but I’m guessing he had that bus going about sixty miles an hour at the top of his game.

  • How To Prevent Self Doubt

    May 23, 2006

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    In an earlier article (How to Get Exactly What You Want), I talked about how important it was have a solid expectation that you will accomplish your goals, no matter how difficult they may seem at the moment. Some people call …