Although it may be hard, it may be time for me to have a heart to heart with myself.

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In a previous post you talked about how “procrastination is a completely natural defense mechanism” I was SO with you as you explained that. I was not as with you when you suggested how to over ride it by reasoning with your brain. I just don’t think fear (what’s going on in ones brain when procrastinating) is reasonable. Therefore not something that CAN BE reason with it. I think we need other tactics. At least some people do. I think your strategies do work and work well for many, I’m talking about those that it is not helping and why it might not be helping.

Today you said, “Don’t let emotional baggage drive you. Don’t let the labels people gave to you (or the ones you gave yourself) drive you any longer.” Again easy to SAY but it is hard to respond to an unreasonable feeling by using REASON. I think for some people, the use of compassion and some clever negotiation maybe works better.

I’m just very sensitive to telling myself or others DON”T cause I know if I’m not successful at DON”Ting then I am not only messed up cause I have emotional baggage but now I’m messed up again cause I don’t have the power to not let it effect me. Does that make sense?

With this topic I have SO MUCH passion I have to say something. The population that will not respond well to your suggestions should know they are not broken or defective because a curtain technique is not working!!!!!!

This issue is at the marrow of my book so you can understand the passion. I can not stand seeing people who are hurting already end up hurting themselves more when they feel they are not able to make the change happen. I just think the tactics for making the change happen is not the same for everyone. We can cripple ourselves by telling ourselves don’t do the thing we are feeling the pain over doing and then not being able to stop doing that painful thing. Was that followable?

Thanks for opening the door for this conversation. I would love to talk to you more about this. I am going to repost my comments here on my blog ( and will of course link to your blog).

I think we are on the same team Dave, we both want the best thing for people, we just have different ways to come at the topic. How cool is that, it only means more people will get what they need!
Rachel

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@James –
Don’t forget “Comment Ninja.”

@Sonia –
Now I like that. Dropping “employee” as a label … I think I’ll try that too.

@Brian –
Hey, thanks for stopping by! If we’re going to have an illusion, why not make it one we design intentionally – one that can help us?

PS – thanks for all your early articles on Magnetic Headlines. They truly helped me get on my feet and onto the Digg frontpage time and again.

Damn mirrors.

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Trying to unstick that “employee” label at the moment. Thanks for the help with that.

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Then again, I have some procrastination to do

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This is by far the best post I have read to date. It reminds me a little of the Mad TV skit “I’m smart enough, I’m handsome enough, and by golly, people like me.” But still, this is so true. We do lie to ourselves and it is amazing the power of spoken words. I think that we could take this a step further and actually start speaking what we want because even though we know when people call us “slacker” and “procrastinator” that they are probably just joking around, our subconcious doesn’t know how to take a joke, so it takes it seriously and starts making it true.

By speaking the positive over that, it will begin to have the same sort of reversing effect. Looks like I am off to start changing the way I speak, both to myself and to others.

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